Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Friday, April 23, 2010
Making time real relationships
What does a real relationship look like to you?
For some it means talking often and keeping up with each other’s busy lifestyle so we always know what is going on. For others it is even more complex -- wanting the other person to do more than they do, like call all the time and include them in everything that goes on.
Real relationships are more times than not complex, but within that relationship should be a bond that is unbreakable.
Whether you are married for 15 years or have a childhood friend for 35 years, that relationship should be based on integrity, trust, honesty and, most of all, time.
Over time families change, situations change and people change. Just because someone wants something different in their life does not mean they don’t want you in their life. Often, relationships suffer because when one person wants something different and the other either can’t or won’t try to understand why. They give up on the things that made the relationship work in the first place:
•Integrity
•Trust
•Honesty
•Time
Of all the elements involved in real relationships time seems to resonate with me more than the others. To me, if you build up the first three (integrity, trust and honesty), time really doesn't matter. You can go hours, weeks, maybe even years without talking and then when you do, it's like you just talked the other day. Real relationships transcend time and place. They do not need to be fed everyday in order for them to withstand the test of time. What they need is to be REAL and what real means to me is:
R – RESPECT
E – EVERYONE
A – AND
L – LOVE THEM
With that formula any real relationship can withstand any situation or circumstance. Remember, be positive, be real and live your life In The Zone.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Friday, April 16, 2010
Right Now!
Back in 1991 a band called Van Halen wrote a song called "Right Now".
According to vocalist Sammy Hager, “The song reflects on living for the moment and not being afraid of making a change.”
How can it be that something so powerful be so simply misunderstood. The words that echo in this song can be a anthem for our nation as it embarks on some of the toughest times in recent history:
Don't wanna wait 'til tomorrow
Why put it off another day?
One by one, little problems
build up,
and stand in our way.
Everyday we are faced with challenges: small medium and large. Every challenge may have multiple solutions, yet we get caught in the place where fear leaves us doing nothing. Then, one day, you wake up and, all of a sudden, you have huge challenges. Right now as many of you read this article, there are issues after issues facing you in your personal or professional lives and we are taking no action on them.
Right now you are where you are in life.
Right now you can make a change that lasts forever.
Right now you can make a difference in someone's life
Right now you can change the color of your hair.
Right now you can sing a song.
Right now you can be whatever you want to be.
Right now is yours!
Whether it be a piece of music, video, or even an article, whatever it is you choose, can make a difference in your life right now. Right now, you can find something that will move you to action. Right now you can set some goals. Right now you can read this and make a change.
The Chorus of the song goes like this:
(Right now) Hey! It's your tomorrow (Right now) Come on, it's everything (Right now) Catch your magic moment Do it right here and now It means everything
Right now is your time to do something you have never done. Don't wait another day, because this thing we call life is too precious to waste. And guess what? The clock on the wall waits for no one. Do something. RIGHT NOW!
Remember be positive, be real and live your life In The Zone.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Don't just Stand There!
In addition to owning and running my own professional coaching business, I have been coaching high school and college baseball since 1993. In those 17 years there is a statement I have made to my players time and time again: Don't just stand there! The reason being, that if you're standing still you are not helping you or your team.
If you're the catcher and there is a ground ball in the infield you better be running down the line to back up first base. If there is a throw coming to third base from right field, that pitcher better be behind third base to back-up. Being the best player or, for that matter, the best team doesn't always mean you are better physically than everyone else. More often than not, it's that you are more prepared than the other team.
Life is not about doing 5,000 things at once. It is about doing three or four things 5,000 times. Don't just stand there is a learned skill that needs to be practiced over and over and over again.
Don't just stand there is such a self serving statement in both life and sports. Don't just stand there means don't just watch the play happen. Get involved in it. How many of you are there today watching the game of life instead of getting involved in it? Don't just stand there is a way for you to be active more, breathe more and, most of all, get into the action more. A lot of times in sports you will hear people say “Wow that was a lucky play”. If they didn't get lucky, they would have lost. Other times you might hear someone say “Rather be lucky than good”. Luck is a funny word in sports and, in fact, even funnier in life. Google the word luck and you will come up with hundreds of definitions and meanings. The one I see that stands out above the rest is the true meaning of Luck to me: when preparation meets opportunity.
I will not buy the fact that life is left to a mystical word I have no control over. Why are people super successful in life or sports is simple. They Don't just stand there! They work and, work and work... harder and harder each and every day, putting themselves in position. And what you ask, are they putting themselves in position to do? Be in the right place at the right time and then someone can say : “Boy where they lucky” without knowing the truth that they had been preparing for that opportunity the whole time.
Remember be positive, be real and live your life In The Zone.
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
"Coaching In The Zone" Presents "The SuperCoach" Anastasia Netri
"Coaching In The Zone" would like you to help us welcome our special guest this week "The SuperCoach" Anastasia Netri. Anastasia is a Business & Life Coach for entrepreneurs as well as a PSYCH-K practitioner. She combines traditional Coaching with PSYCH-K, a process that actually can "reprogram" your subconscious mind to support your desires.
Join us as we discuss "How to overcome limiting beliefs and why it is essential to success." Anastasia will give us tons of insight and value into this topic. In addition to her work as "The SuperCoach" she is also a inspirational speaker and writer, as well as host to her very own radio show called "The Conscious Entrepreneur Show" right her on Blog Talk Radio.
So please join us this Sunday night April 11th at 9:00pm EST for this amazing interview, just go to www.blogtalkradio.com/coaching-in-the-zone.
If you would like to call in with any questions for our special guest please call 347-857-1733.
Sunday, April 4, 2010
We can't sugar coat life for our kids.
What do you think needs to happen for us to move forward?
When will we accept the challenge?
Watch TV, read the paper, or listen to the news and life is riddled with challenge after challenge. Everyone wants to be heard but no one wants to listen to anyone. They want to be heard, so they can explain to you all the difficult times in their life, and recall with great detail each and every moment of pain. I am so sick and tired of people mistaking effort for failure and pain for depression. Individuals and organizations have opportunities to try different things every day. The problem is they try it for one day, one week or one month then say “well it doesn't work”.
The challenge I'm taking about is one that has been lost for a long time and that is a commitment to excellence. You see it from time to time in sports as well as in business. When I was growing up you played to win. It didn't matter what the game was: checkers, baseball, or basketball. No matter what, try to win. What happened when you lost? You tried that much harder to win. Why does this country lack leadership? Because more times than not we are teaching our kids to compete, be fair and everyone should get a chance to play. Does anyone see the gigantic flaw in that theory?
Life does not work that way and when those kids grow up, they expect life to treat them the same way. Then when it does not happen that way, they lack the skills to handle the challenges they face. We need to know now more than ever to challenge our youth, keep score and teach them what it takes to compete. If we don't think life is a game, we are missing a critical point. The point is we get no practice, no dress rehearsal, no editing in this game we call life. We get one chance, one shot to make the most of it. I have a 7-year-old son, and he believes he can do anything. I encourage that, but I also challenge him to be more, do more, live full each and every day.
We can't sugar coat life. It is full of challenges. What we need to do is prepare our kids and youth, by holding them to a higher standard each and everyday.
The definition of luck is: when opportunity meets preparation. Why do most people call the most successful people in the world lucky all the time? Because they don't realize that they have been preparing for that moment their whole life. Want to give more to your community, family and friends? Hold them to a higher standard in life, I guarantee you one day soon they will thank you for it.
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