Making time real relationships

What does a real relationship look like to you?


For some it means talking often and keeping up with each other’s busy lifestyle so we always know what is going on. For others it is even more complex -- wanting the other person to do more than they do, like call all the time and include them in everything that goes on.

Real relationships are more times than not complex, but within that relationship should be a bond that is unbreakable.

Whether you are married for 15 years or have a childhood friend for 35 years, that relationship should be based on integrity, trust, honesty and, most of all, time.

Over time families change, situations change and people change. Just because someone wants something different in their life does not mean they don’t want you in their life. Often, relationships suffer because when one person wants something different and the other either can’t or won’t try to understand why. They give up on the things that made the relationship work in the first place:

•Integrity

•Trust

•Honesty

•Time

Of all the elements involved in real relationships time seems to resonate with me more than the others. To me, if you build up the first three (integrity, trust and honesty), time really doesn't matter. You can go hours, weeks, maybe even years without talking and then when you do, it's like you just talked the other day. Real relationships transcend time and place. They do not need to be fed everyday in order for them to withstand the test of time. What they need is to be REAL and what real means to me is:

R – RESPECT

E – EVERYONE

A – AND

L – LOVE THEM


With that formula any real relationship can withstand any situation or circumstance. Remember, be positive, be real and live your life In The Zone.