Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Friday, April 23, 2010
Making time real relationships
What does a real relationship look like to you?
For some it means talking often and keeping up with each other’s busy lifestyle so we always know what is going on. For others it is even more complex -- wanting the other person to do more than they do, like call all the time and include them in everything that goes on.
Real relationships are more times than not complex, but within that relationship should be a bond that is unbreakable.
Whether you are married for 15 years or have a childhood friend for 35 years, that relationship should be based on integrity, trust, honesty and, most of all, time.
Over time families change, situations change and people change. Just because someone wants something different in their life does not mean they don’t want you in their life. Often, relationships suffer because when one person wants something different and the other either can’t or won’t try to understand why. They give up on the things that made the relationship work in the first place:
•Integrity
•Trust
•Honesty
•Time
Of all the elements involved in real relationships time seems to resonate with me more than the others. To me, if you build up the first three (integrity, trust and honesty), time really doesn't matter. You can go hours, weeks, maybe even years without talking and then when you do, it's like you just talked the other day. Real relationships transcend time and place. They do not need to be fed everyday in order for them to withstand the test of time. What they need is to be REAL and what real means to me is:
R – RESPECT
E – EVERYONE
A – AND
L – LOVE THEM
With that formula any real relationship can withstand any situation or circumstance. Remember, be positive, be real and live your life In The Zone.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Friday, April 16, 2010
Right Now!
Back in 1991 a band called Van Halen wrote a song called "Right Now".
According to vocalist Sammy Hager, “The song reflects on living for the moment and not being afraid of making a change.”
How can it be that something so powerful be so simply misunderstood. The words that echo in this song can be a anthem for our nation as it embarks on some of the toughest times in recent history:
Don't wanna wait 'til tomorrow
Why put it off another day?
One by one, little problems
build up,
and stand in our way.
Everyday we are faced with challenges: small medium and large. Every challenge may have multiple solutions, yet we get caught in the place where fear leaves us doing nothing. Then, one day, you wake up and, all of a sudden, you have huge challenges. Right now as many of you read this article, there are issues after issues facing you in your personal or professional lives and we are taking no action on them.
Right now you are where you are in life.
Right now you can make a change that lasts forever.
Right now you can make a difference in someone's life
Right now you can change the color of your hair.
Right now you can sing a song.
Right now you can be whatever you want to be.
Right now is yours!
Whether it be a piece of music, video, or even an article, whatever it is you choose, can make a difference in your life right now. Right now, you can find something that will move you to action. Right now you can set some goals. Right now you can read this and make a change.
The Chorus of the song goes like this:
(Right now) Hey! It's your tomorrow (Right now) Come on, it's everything (Right now) Catch your magic moment Do it right here and now It means everything
Right now is your time to do something you have never done. Don't wait another day, because this thing we call life is too precious to waste. And guess what? The clock on the wall waits for no one. Do something. RIGHT NOW!
Remember be positive, be real and live your life In The Zone.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Don't just Stand There!
In addition to owning and running my own professional coaching business, I have been coaching high school and college baseball since 1993. In those 17 years there is a statement I have made to my players time and time again: Don't just stand there! The reason being, that if you're standing still you are not helping you or your team.
If you're the catcher and there is a ground ball in the infield you better be running down the line to back up first base. If there is a throw coming to third base from right field, that pitcher better be behind third base to back-up. Being the best player or, for that matter, the best team doesn't always mean you are better physically than everyone else. More often than not, it's that you are more prepared than the other team.
Life is not about doing 5,000 things at once. It is about doing three or four things 5,000 times. Don't just stand there is a learned skill that needs to be practiced over and over and over again.
Don't just stand there is such a self serving statement in both life and sports. Don't just stand there means don't just watch the play happen. Get involved in it. How many of you are there today watching the game of life instead of getting involved in it? Don't just stand there is a way for you to be active more, breathe more and, most of all, get into the action more. A lot of times in sports you will hear people say “Wow that was a lucky play”. If they didn't get lucky, they would have lost. Other times you might hear someone say “Rather be lucky than good”. Luck is a funny word in sports and, in fact, even funnier in life. Google the word luck and you will come up with hundreds of definitions and meanings. The one I see that stands out above the rest is the true meaning of Luck to me: when preparation meets opportunity.
I will not buy the fact that life is left to a mystical word I have no control over. Why are people super successful in life or sports is simple. They Don't just stand there! They work and, work and work... harder and harder each and every day, putting themselves in position. And what you ask, are they putting themselves in position to do? Be in the right place at the right time and then someone can say : “Boy where they lucky” without knowing the truth that they had been preparing for that opportunity the whole time.
Remember be positive, be real and live your life In The Zone.
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